Do The Work! 

Hey Yall!!!! I’m back! Whew! Its been a long, long time since I blogged. But the Lord has really been putting on my spirit to start the blogging again. So, I’m going to be like Nike and JUST DO IT!

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Lately the Lord has placed several women in my life who I have inadvertently ended up ministering to. I don’t really seek out people to tell my story to but somehow the Lord always has me sharing with someone the spiritual nuggets he has given me over years. As I listen to these women my hearts breaks because most of their stories are very familiar to me. Our situations may not be the same but the emotions and feelings are very similar and I can feel and relive that pain through our conversations.

Of course I will not get into anyones personal stories, but I will share with you that many of them are going over the same mountain over and over and over again. We talk, I share what the Lord has me to share and then…. many times, nothing happens or changes. Why? Because they didn’t do their work!

I remember being in this cycle for many, many years. I wanted to be free from the hurt, pain, bitterness, anger, and frustration I was feeling but I kept doing the very thing that brought me all the frustration and pain.

What are you struggling with? What do you need God to heal you from?

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I like to watch Iyanla Vanzant, Fix My Life. Its a show about emotional healing. During the credits she talks about how she made it big, but lost everything and went through a lot of emotional turmoil. But shes ends credits by saying  “but I did my work”! In other words, she did the hard stuff to help herself reach a higher level of emotional healing. I JUST LOVE THAT!!! It’s such a simple concept but its something many of us don’t do. We do not do our work! The work we need to do on ourselves to get us to that level of emotional healing.

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What mountains are you climbing over and over again? What is the Lord telling you to do? Have you prayed about it? If so, did you listen and ACT on what God has told you to do?

Whatever God is telling you to do I encourage you to DO IT!!! No questions asked. Walk by faith and trust God knows what He is doing and He’s telling you for a purpose. You may not see it or understand it now. But God knows.

I recently started going to a new church and I came at just the right time. The pastor is preaching a series on Spiritual Maturity is a choice. Wow!

When I heard that it was eye-opening for me. You always hear trials and hardship come to make you stronger. I’ve always thought that was where spiritual maturity come from. But no, spiritual maturity is ultimately a conscious choice we have to make. It’s just one of those things where we have to DO THE WORK!

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I’ll give you a couple examples, one of the things I struggle with is discipline and self-control. Specifically in the areas of food, working out, and time management. Like, for real y’all, the struggle is REAL! lol I’ve been on a weight loss journey for a few years now, I started off great the first year or so. Lost 50 lbs, got off diabetes meds, and was looking and feeling great. Somewhere along the way, I got way to comfortable and slipped back into my old eating habits. Before I knew it I was up 20 lbs!!!! Yikes! I had bought all new smaller clothes, but those smaller clothes no longer fit me. I was soooooo sad y’all.  😦  I was sitting there thinking, what is going to help me stop and get myself back on track? I started praying about it. Lord, help me to get myself in control of my eating habits. And guess what? He started helping me. He started putting that tug in my spirit, “don’t eat that, put that down, that serving was enough.” But guess what else?  I DIDNT LISTEN! I kept on eating all the wrong stuff and ignored His leading. AAAANNNDDDDDD, guess what else y’all.. I kept praying! (Crazy, right?, hey don’t judge me lol) I kept praying about it asking the Lord to keep helping me. Finally one day the Holy Spirit told me, “look, you’re asking for help, I’m giving you help, but you aren’t listening. This isn’t some magic formula, the Lord isn’t just going to crack the sky and smack the donuts, pizza, chips, from your mouth. All He can do is lead you but you MUST listen!” Dang Jesus, did you really have to check me so hard, like I felt totally convicted. 😦  But that’s when I realized. I had to DO THE WORK! No one could do this for me. I simply had to put the donuts down, not order the pizza, and make the tough choices even when all my feelings and emotions were screaming otherwise. And let’s be clear, those feelings and emotions are so hard to ignore sometimes.

Galations 5: 13 says: “For you, brethren, were [indeed] called to freedom; only [do not let your] freedom be an incentive to your flesh…”  

1 Corinthians 10:23  “All things are legitimate [permissible–and we are free to do anything we please], but not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome). All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive [to character] andedifying [to spiritual life].”

In other words we are free to make any choices we want to make in this life but it doesn’t mean those choices are good for us. We must choose wisely. We have to make those hard decisions and listen to the leading and guiding of the Holy Spirit above our flesh. In other words we must DO THE WORK! It’s a choice. Sometimes its a hard choice. But nevertheless its a choice we must make daily to listen to God. Trust God. Have faith In God. God doesn’t make us bow down and worship Him. He wants us to CHOOSE Him. Deuternomony 30:30 “I call heaven and earth to witness this day against you that I have set before you life and death, the blessings and the curses; therefore CHOOSE life, that you and your descendants may live.” (My emphasis on choose)

We must DO THE WORK! I’ve realized that this whole concept actually boils down to one attribute, and that’s SELF CONTROL. Good ol’ fashion self-control. #Sigh You mean to tell me Jesus just won’t sprinkle a little self control on me?! haha! Nope, it doesn’t work like that. Self control is one of the fruits of the spirit listed in Galations 5. I started asking God, how do I develop in self control? He gave me this. Galations 5:16 “But I say, walk and live [habitually] in the [Holy] Spirit [responsive to and controlled and guided by the Spirit]; then you will certainly not gratify the cravings and desires of the flesh (of human nature without God).” So, from there, I’m like ok Jesus, I have to seek the Holy Spirit and be led and guided by Him. But most of all, I have to listen. 

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Y’all, know this blog is for everyone but as a woman, my heart is for women to be whole, complete, and content in Gods loves. So let me give you a different type of example on practicing self control.

Like when that complicated relationship/ex creeps back up calling and telling you they miss you. Do you respond?  OR do you block the number and trust God obviously protected you from that relationship. Remember, Gods “no” is for our protection. If that guy/girl was the one for you. Yall would still be together. Lets be real, most of us are still entertaining that ex. They keep calling and texting because they are getting a response. This minister I follow says, what you feed will grow and what you cut off will die! That’s where some self control has to come in y’all! God is not going to smack that phone out your hand for you. But he will tell you, this isn’t good for you. Lets be honest, getting those messages might feel good, it might make you feel loved, or  wanted, or fill a void you might have. But in the end, ask yourself is it good for me to get wrapped back up into something that God has already freed me from????? Remember, you have a choice, you have freedom, but will you DO THE WORK? Will you allow that situation to die? Stop feeding your situation! Let me repeat that, Stop feeding your situation. Whatever “It” is. Many of us are carrying around a lot of emotional baggage. We are praying to God asking him to heal our hearts and help us but we keep entertaining the very thing we need healing from!

I have no idea what some of you guys are facing, but I can tell you that whatever it is, it’s real. Its big and It’s personal to YOU. You may be facing sexual temptation, food, an ex, time management, etc… whatever it is, if you are asking the Lord to help you, know that he is there. He is helping you. That quiet still voice, that feeling you have to go right when all your emotions are telling you to go left, That’s God. It’s the leading and guiding of the Holy Spirit. Listen to Him. DO THE WORK!

I want to leave you with a scripture I have been saying a lot lately. “Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people),” Ephesians 5:15

You can do this! You’ve got this! DO THE WORK!   do-workI’m praying for you guys.

Love y’all,

Andrea F.

 

 

SINGLE PARENTHOOD AND COPARENTING GODS WAY

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I wanted to shift gears and talk to you guys about a little something different. Its something that is very near and dear to my heart and I don’t see a lot of blogs, or books about it. I want to talk to you guys about single parenting and co parenting.

Most of you guys know I am the mother of 2 beautiful children. My children are 14 and 3 (soon to be 4). They are 10 years apart and they are by the same man. No, we were never married. He was my childhood sweet heart and I thought I was in love.

Although we aren’t dating each other we now have two children that we have to raise. Being a single mom is really hard. But I am grateful that I do have help. He’s a really good dad. Financially, physically, and emotionally, he is there for our children. However, being a single mom and co parenting can still be really rough!

Some days I find myself upset or angry just at the situation itself. Just for me simply being a single mom. Its not what I wanted out of my life but I often have to remind myself that it was a choice that I made to sleep with someone that I wasn’t married to. The bible tells us that sex is for marriage only. Although we are free to make our own choices, we are not free from the consequences of that choice. Therefore, when Im frustrated, I have to remind myself that I made a choice.

My kids dad and I get along very well for the most part and it wasn’t always that way but co parenting is still extremely hard! I once wrote a Facebook post about how I felt like co parenting was a lot like a marriage. Theres a lot of compromising involved.

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There is a misconception about compromising though. People seem to think that it means 50-50. That couldn’t be farther from the truth! Compromising at times means you don’t get what you want at all! Here’s the thing to remember, when you are in a coparenting relationship its not about what YOU want anyway!! Its about whats best for the children involved. There so many times that I go along with things that I don’t necessarily agree with and he does as well.  If it isn’t going to hurt my children mentally, physically, or emotionally, there are things I just have to let go. You pray about it and move on.

One of the best things you can do for your children is to get along with the other parent. Not just tolerate them, but truly get along. You may be dealing with a parent that isn’t contributing like they should. They come around when they want to, send money whenever for the child and phone calls are few and far between. That doesn’t mean you can’t get along with the parent.  Im not saying its easy. But it is definitely possible, Understand that it is the best interest for your children if you get along well. Getting along means that when you all are in each others presence you are still able to smile and make small talk. It means your body language is open and inviting.

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I watched a documentary called Fatherless Sons. It was talking about how men in particular don’t know how to navigate through the hurt and the anger that many women hold on to. So even if they aren’t  the best dad in the world, they have a hard time coming around because they know they aren’t doing what they should be doing for the child, but they don’t know how to handle the hurt and the anger , the snark comments, the rude body language that the mother gives off. Listen, Im not saying you don’t have a right to be upset if the opposite parent isn’t doing their part. But what I am saying is that ITS NOT ABOUT YOU! You have to let go of how you feel and understand that child just wants to be able to see and/or talk to their parent even if it is only once in a while.

You may be dealing with a parent that has much different views than you. That is where I encourage you to pray about each situation and ask the Lord to lead and guide you on what to do. The bible says in Proverb 3:6 “In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths.” In other words tell the Lord you need His help and he will lead and guide you on what to do.

Instead of nagging and complaining about what their dad doesn’t do, I’ve learned to pray about it. Not asking God to change their dad but asking God to show me how to handle the situation. Most of the time God changes me, my mindset or my attitude and while Im being changed, somehow their dad heart is changed  and things somehow end up running smoothly. On the flip side there are times when I walk away frustrated but always knowing this will work out for my good. Romans 8:28

My biggest issue was letting go of the past hurt, anger, and resentment and things that were done to me. He broke my heart, and when I would get upset about something concerning the children, all of that would come back up and I lashed out horribly. It made it very hard to coparent. (I know Im not the only that has dealt with this and I still struggle with it from time to time.)

I remember a while back after one argument with my kids dad, I was so upset all I could do was pray. I started praying asking God to change their dad and help him to see how he was wrong, and the Lord told me You need to change. I was like what???? I’m a single mom, I have these kids full time, why do I need to change. But the Lord showed me I was handling our parenting disagreements from a place of hurt and anger and not from a place of peace and love. I had to learn to let go of all that to effectively co parent. The Lord truly changed me that day. If you are struggling in this area I encourage you to give that hurt and pain to God. Let Him heal your broken heart. Its a process, and it takes time. Although, I still struggle with it from time to time, I always remind myself that its not just about me, but its about my children and whats best for them. I don’t want them to see their parents arguing, fussing and fighting all the time. I want to always create a peaceful atmosphere for them. I want them to feel whole and complete and never torn between their parents.

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Another issue I had was throwing it in his face how little he has the kids vs how much I have the kids. I always feel like I have them more than him. For example, My children are with their dad one day a week and every other weekend. Although it may not seem like a lot. Im grateful because some parents done get that. Let me let you  in on a secret. The parent that the children live with is typically the parent that will have the kids the most. Its just the way it is. You can’t focus on the quantity of time spent because it won’t be equal. I enjoy being a mom and I enjoy having them full time. I’ve learned to focus on that fact.

I used to always feel like  if we were married, I wouldn’t be so tired, or I would have more help, or this or that. But when I hear other married women talk, many times they have the same issues as me! As a mom and/or wife you are the keeper of the home. Titus 2: 4-5 says  “…train the young women to be [a]sane and sober of mind (temperate, disciplined) and to love their husbands and their children, To be self-controlled, chaste, homemakers, good-natured (kindhearted), adapting and subordinating themselves to their husbands…”  If you aren’t married, I look at the husband part of the scripture as your home. I have to submit myself to what my home needs. I can’t run and go and do all this stuff and leave my home unkept. Also, please stop and take a moment to read Proverbs 31: 13-31. It talks about the role of a wife and mom.

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Disclaimer- Please understand that I am NOT saying that a father does not have responsibilities for the children. What I am saying is that many of the responsibilities you have as a single mom are responsibilities you would have even if you were married. I can’t speak on a fathers role because Im not a father. But what I can tell you is even if he isn’t doing his part for the kids it doesn’t mean you aren’t going to do your part for the kids.

Being a single parent is not how I imagined my life would be. I had the same picture in my head that every other little girl has. I wanted the husband, 2.5 kids, big house with the white picket fence. LOL  But I made a choice, and because of my choice my life is a bit different than what I imagined. But guess what? THATS OK!!! Single parenthood did not stop Gods purpose for my life! And for that, I am so very grateful.

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Thats what I love about serving God is that even when we stray, He is still right there holding us. Just waiting for us to come back to Him. Ever since I  truly gave my life to God my coparenting relationship is a lot easier, that doesn’t mean that things run smoothly all the time. It doesn’t mean I don’t get upset or have to compromise.

When I say that it is easy it means that now, I know that whatever happens, God has my back. I pray for my children daily, and I pray for their dad as well. I pray for his well being because if He is well, I know my children benefit too. Our road wasn’t always easy but with maturity and prayer I believe we are raising children that know both of their  parents love them dearly even though we aren’t all in the same household.

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Even if you don’t have a good relationship with the opposite parent, still lift them up in prayer daily.

You might be saying, well Andrea, my kids opposite parent is a deadbeat. They don’t call or come around. My advice to you would still be to always speak life to your children regarding the other parent and still keep them lifted in prayer. Seek God on what to say to your children and allow the Lord to guide you.

I really hope this helps someone. It was on my heart to talk about single parenthood. Its not always easy, but you can and will get through it. You can have joy and peace through the process.

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Blessing to you all! Praying for you always

Andrea F.

The Safest Place in the Whole Wide World…

Hey y’all!

Sorry I haven’t been on here in a few weeks. Things have been  kind of crazy and busy for me. As most of you guys know I started this blog for a communications class for my grad program.Although each post is for a grade for my class, I really try to pray and seek God on what it is He wants me to say. But being completely honest. I haven’t been praying as much and haven’t been spending much time in my word lately.  Life has just been so busy. School, work, weight loss journey, and kids. It has been down right crazy.

I saw this picture on Facebook and it really made me think about some things.

preview_min I love this quote! Im not sure who said it. It didn’t have an author on it. But when I saw the picture it made me say to myself. OOOOOOHHHHHHHHHH I GET IT NOW!

Everything that we go through is preparing us for something we asked the Lord for.  Yea, it’s kind of hard to see things that way but I really believe this statement is so true. My mind of course started thinking about all the bad stuff has happened to me. I realized again how true this statement really is!

I think about when my home was broken into. It taught me how to be content with much and content with little. When my car was stolen, it taught me how to be thankful. Thankful that my son wasn’t in the car when they stole it. When I lost my job it taught me how to be content. I hated that job and I really didn’t want to be there.  I even thought about sad moments where my heart felt broken and crushed. I think of  how it taught me what I truly wanted out of life. I truly learned my worth and what I deserved and now I’m confident, bold and unashamed to say what I want, feel, and deserve.

I think I’ve mentioned this scripture before but the Lord keeps giving it to me as I write this post so I’m going to give it to you again.

1 Peter 2:19 For one is regarded favorably (is approved, acceptable, and thankworthy) if, as in the sight of God, he endures the pain of unjust suffering.

There are somethings we are going through that are just unfair! We complain about it,, get angry about, get content, and then repeat the cycle all over again. We pray and ask God to remove the situation without even understanding what we are supposed to learn from it.

I used to work for a company where my boss made a difference with me in my race. I was the only black person in the department and she would always say little things to me about my race, area I lived, how I talked, and sounded. Although it she felt it was all in fun, it wasn’t funny to me. I grew to really dislike the job and it showed in my work. She would be extremely nice to me in my face, but then tell upper management that I wasn’t doing my job properly. She really started to pick at me. Needless to say, I started hating the job. I dreaded going to work everyday.

Months later I lost my job. Right after I bought a house. I had not even made my first mortgage payment. I was a bit relieved but then again, I was a bit afraid too. I had no other income. Through that situation the Lord begin to show me contentment. I kept thinking, I shouldn’t have complained about the job so much. I should have been more grateful and asked the Lord to help me while I was there instead of removing me.

Thats the thing I find we tend to do the most. Instead of staying and asking the Lord what are we to learn from a situation, we run instead. we run away from it. The problem with running is that we will continue to go through that situation time and time again until we learn the lesson the Lord wants us to learn. Remember the above scripture. You are regarded as favorable when we endure unjust treatment. When we stay and handle things God way He has a way of developing us through the situation. Theres a blessing on the other side of it if you can stay and endure Gods way.

I know its not easy. Think about it like this. Would you rather be in Gods perfect will, or His permissive will? I looked up the definition to permissive will and there are a bunch out there, but in short Permissive Is what God permits to happen many times because we ask. There is still a purpose and plan behind it but its the hard way through the test. His perfect will is His thoughts and plans for our lives unfolding.

For example. You hate your job. You complain, complain, complain about your job. You cry out to God and ask you Him to help you get another job. He tells you over and over its not time, but you keep praying about a new job. He says ok and gives you the new job. (thats permissive will) But guess what? the new job isonly worse than the last. one!  So you are miserable all over again. Get it?  His perfect will was for you to stay at the first job and let your line shine so bright that you bring people closer to Him. Or He may have wanted to develop you in patience or in love, or witnessing to others. That is His perfect will.

The safest and best place to always be is in His perfect will. There’s a purpose and a plan for all we deal with. With God on your side you are the VICTOR! You serve a God that has a flawless record. And even when we mess up, He’s right there with His loving arms to catch us.

I don’t know about you but I want to be in His perfect will for my life. I know His perfect will is not always easy but I know it will always be worth it.  🙂

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I’m continually praying for you all.

Andrea F.

DONT GIVE UP!

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Hey y’all!!

When you read the above picture that should have made you shout for joy right there. If it didn’t, read it again, read it over and over again. Read it slowly and meditate on where the Lord has brought you from.

Did you read it again? Ok, you should at least be smiling from ear to ear now! God has brought you a long long way! He didn’t leave you. and the fact that you are still here, should be proof that God LOVES you!

When I read that post, it really started me thinking about my past. Not in a  bad way, but just remembering how the Lord kept me. When I think about it, I get happy and excited, and my heart is filled with gratefulness!

Some of us are battling some SERIOUS, SERIOUS stuff, illnesses, death of loved ones, depression, and so much more.

But I want to tell you. DONT GIVE UP ON GOD BECAUSE HE WONT GIVE UP ON YOU.

We sung that song at church on Sunday  (He’s Able, by Deitrick Haddon) and it really resonated with me. The song says “don’t give up on God cause he won’t give up on you, He’s Able”. We pray, we get excited, and we have hope, that God is going to do what we are believing in Him for, and then after a couple of months we don’t see it. So we get discouraged and give up. We stop praying, we stop studying our word. We start speaking defeat and start complaining. BUT, don’t give up on God! He didn’t give up on you!

How long did it take you to surrender your life to Him? How many times have you prayed and gave up? How many times have you went back to your old way of thinking and living? Several times right? ( I know  have) but He never gave up on you. Even though He didn’t SEE his plans unfolding for me due to my disobedience, He never gave up on me. He kept loving me, blessing me, and welcomed me with open arms when I truly gave my life to Him. So don’t give u on God!

You have to stay in faith that God is working your situation out. You have to see yourself the way God sees you. He sees you VICTORIOUS! You have to think it, believe it, and meditate on it. You have to take possession of a victorious lifestyle.

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I don’t know what some of you are going through, but God is the answer to whatever you are facing. God can turn a situation around in the blink of any eye, If you just trust him.

Philippians 4:19 says And my God will liberally supply ([i]fill to the full) your every need according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Psalms 91: 7-8 says A thousand may fall at your side, and ten thousand at your right hand, but it shall not come near you Only a spectator shall you be [yourself inaccessible in the secret place of the Most High] as you witness the reward of the wicked.

St. John 16:33 I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace and confidence. Ithe worldyou have tribulation and trials and distress andfrustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcomethe world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.]

Luke 12:32 says Do not be seized with alarm and struck with fear, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give youthe kingdom!

Don’t you see that God loves you?! You just have to stay in faith. BUT HOW?? I know, you are saying, “How do I stay in faith, How do I keep going? That’s a lot easier said than done, You just don’t know what I’m going through.”

You are right. I have now idea what some of you guys are facing BUT, I know I serve a God that is bigger and stronger than ANYTHING you are going through. You stay in faith by staying in the word of God. Every time that situation comes up, you speak the word of it. Don’t dwell on the problem, you dwell on the word of God.

I heard  a minister once say, this is not about  positive thinking. This is about WORD thinking. Its believing Gods word over your situation.  It’s about not complaining about it, but trusting in what God said. When you know a situation has been worked out, you don’t have a reason to complain because it’s over and done with. You KNOW it’s worked out. Well that’s the same with whatever you are facing. You know God is on you side.

I follow a minister, Heather Lindsey on Facebook and IG and she always says, whatever you give attention to will grow. So the more you plant seeds of complaining, the more that seed will grow. It will get bigger and bigger and you will tell more and more people. How do you feel when you are complaining? Not good! But what if you gave attention to the word of God? How much better do you think you would feel if you planted seeds of the word of God? Your faith would increase, your peace would increase, joy would increase. Give attention to the scriptures and let it grow in you.

I am a big complainer and I have to check myself on it often. I have to remind myself to focus on the word of God. I’m also grateful for friends that remind me too.

1 John 4:4 says Little children, you are of God [you belong to Him] and have [already] defeated and overcome them [the agents of the antichrist], because He Who lives in you is greater (mightier) than he who is in the world.

God is so great on the inside of you! YOU have no reason to fear. There is a gospel song that says, Don’t wait until the battle is over, you can shout now. You can be excited right now, because you know you are a winner with God on your side. You KNOW you are VICTORIOUS!

Most of you guys know, I’m on a weight loss journey. I recently started working with a personal trainer. She has me doing some exercises where I feel like my muscles are just about to give out! lol but when it gets really hard, and I feel like I can’t go anymore, she always reminds me “you’ve got this, you can do it.” It gives me that extra umph I  need to keep going. One day she told me, “tell your body to shut up, and keep going.”

That really resonated with me, because that’s the same thing we have to tell out emotions. We have to tell them SHUT UP!!! You will not control me! I KNOW, THAT I KNOW, THAT I KNOW, what the word of God says about my situation and I’m going to trust in that word and walk VICTORIOUSLY right now! I’m not going to wait until the battle is over, I’m going to be at peace and be happy, right now!

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My own Pastor has been preaching a series “Its Time for Change” and I believe in my heart, Its time for us to stop giving up. I wrote a post like this before in the past, but sometimes, I need a reminder to just have faith in God. Its time to stop trying to do things the worlds way and do things Gods way. Its time for us to stop making excuses as to why we are always depressed, mad, or sad, and its time for us to start thinking about the above statement. Here it is again:

1606897_10153294653803273_964605225924790377_nYou have made it so far. You are still here to tell your story, to give a testimony. No, Life is not perfect, no, you might not have everything you want, but you are still ALIVE.

Don’t give up on God. He won’t give up on you. Believe Him, Trust His word. Some of us are so close to receiving our blessing but we quit just short of receiving.  You have survived. You are still here. You CAN make it!

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I’m praying for you all!

Andrea F.

 

The Basics

Hey Guys,

I just wanted to come on here and remind you about Gods love for you. We listen to messages and preachers telling us all theses things we should and shouldn’t do. We listen to all the messages about having faith.

Sometimes I get overwhelmed with it all. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with thinking about everything I should and shouldn’t be doing and saying.

Please don’t misunderstand me. Those messages are very important. As we grow up from baby christians to adults we have to grow up in the things of God too.

But today I want to remind you of the basics. John 3:16 For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten ([a]unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life.

God loves you so much! He has you in the palm of His hand. There is nothing that you are going through that He can not handle.

I don’t have much immediate family. Both of my parents and both sets of grandparents are all deceased. I often feel very alone. One day I had a talk with God about it and he told me. I love you, I think you’re to die for, and you are my number one priority.Wow!!! That blessed me so much y’all.

So I want to remind you of the basics. Just remember that God loves you. Don’t focus on all the wrong you may have done, or all the times you didn’t get it right. Focus on God and His love for you. Remember that you are His number one priority.

Don’t get so overwhelmed with all the do’s and dont’s. When you continue to love God the Holy Spirit will give you a check in your spirit when something isn’t right.

All you have to do is remember God loves YOU!

Praying for you all,

Andrea F.

It Ain’t Over!

Hey guys!

So today I want to share my friends testimony with you. This has been a rough year for her. But what I love about her testimony is that she never gave up on God. Even in the rough times she held on. I loved her video giving praise to God for what He has done  for her this year. I don’t know about you, but I can FEEL her praise through this video. Please watch it and share it with someone.

What I hope you take away from it, is to sit back and think about what the Lord has brought you from. Understand there is purpose for everything that you went through. It was to develop you and make you stronger. Take a few minutes and think about some of the challenges you faced this year. But guess what, YOU MADE IT and you are still here!

Understand that what God does for others He can do the same for you. I  pray this video blesses you as much as it blessed me!

Be blessed. I’m always praying for you!

Andrea F.

Please view: Testimony

I’m a tranform ya, I’m a transform ya

“Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].” Romans 12:1

The Holy Spirit has put this scripture spirit a lot lately.

I’m going through this phase where, I kind of miss my old life. My life before Christ. I miss not having conviction, being ok with doing wrong.

“Therefore if any person is [ingrafted] in Christ (the Messiah) he is a newcreation (a new creature altogether); the old [previous moral and spiritual condition] has passed away. Behold, the fresh and new has come!” 2 Corinthians 5:17

When I first really gave my life to God, it was a process. It wasn’t something that happened over night. I didn’t wake up and decide I’m not going to do a bunch of stuff anymore. It was truly a process for me. Slowly, the Holy Spirit started giving me something called CONVICTION.

conviction

There are many definitions out there for biblical conviction. So, to sum it up, its that little voice/feeling inside you that tells you something you are saying or doing is not right or wrong for you. Often times we ignore conviction. It doesn’t feel good to be in that place. We make excuses for why we did what we did or said what we said. But if you listen to that feeling you will find PEACE and a closer relationship with God.

It’s not that I want to do anything that I shouldn’t be doing, but it’s really hard to be DIFFERENT! It can be hard trying to explain why you don’t do what everyone else does, go where everyone else goes, or say what everyone else says. I love God and I love living for Him. I would never go back to my old life, but sometimes, being honest, it gets hard!

Before I became new, I was a drinker. I enjoyed going to the bar or club and having adult drinks. Lots of drinks…….I am no longer a drinker. It is something the Lord told me not do. That meant my circle of people to hang out with really changed. You can’t hang out with the same people who still do what the Lord has told you NOT to do.

The bible says we should “…Hate what is evil [loathe all ungodliness, turn in horror from wickedness], but hold fast to that which is good.” Romans 12:9 In other words, going out and getting drunk and clubbing is a part of that ungodliness, so I had to change!

John 15:19 says “If you belonged to the world, the world would treat you with affection and would love you as its own. But because you are not of the world [no longer one with it], but I have chosen (selected) you out of the world, the world hates (detests) you.

This earth is not your home. In heaven, with God is your true home. And to put it bluntly, WE HAVE TO ACT LIKE IT! Just like your earthy parents have rules and morals they expect you to uphold, so does our Heavenly father. He created us and our time here on this earth is to represent and glorify Him!

This is not to say you have to be perfect. but what it means is you will exhibit self-control because of your love for God. “But I say, walk and live [habitually] in the [Holy] Spirit [responsive to and controlled and guided by the Spirit]; then you will certainly not gratify the cravings and desires of the flesh (of human nature without God).” Galatians 5:6

This means be Holy Spirit led and not self led. Christianity is not about a bunch of stuff you can’t do. It’s about a bunch of stuff you CHOOSE to do because you love God.

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Listen, I’m not bashing people who drink, I’m just using this as an example. I’ll use another example. I had a friend (married friend) invite me to a pole dancing class once. It was at reputable studio with licensed instructors. It was their birthday and that’s what they wanted to do. Pole dancing is seen as exercise by many people. You use a lot of muscles and burn a lot of calories doing it. For me, as a single woman, focused on remaining abstinent until God sends my mate, I did not think a pole dancing class was going to benefit me in my walk to remain abstinent. Lets be honest it’s definitely seen as sexy. I wasn’t comfortable going. I didn’t want to awake a bunch of thoughts and feelings that just didn’t need to awakened in this season of my life. It’s not that I looked at it as necessarily a bad thing but I didn’t think it was fitting for me to partake in that type of activity. Of course my friend was disappointed but she is also a christian and she understood my heart in my decision to not go.

Your life at times is the only bible that people see. Your actions, attitude and demeanor should be of one that glorifies God.

Here’s the thing, there are things this world deems as “acceptable” but that doesn’t mean its acceptable to God. It doesn’t mean that its profitable for your soul or your walk with the Lord. That is why the first scripture Romans 12:1 says, do not be conformed, fashioned after, or adapted to this worlds customs.

I’m not here to preach a bunch of do’s and dont’s to you. However, I’m encouraging you to seek God in all things and listen to the Holy Spirit. Listen to that feeling you have when you’ve done or said something but something doesn’t sit right in your spirit about it. Ask yourself is what I’m doing lining up with The Word of God. We can not look to the worlds’ standard.

I remember a season in my life where I was really alone. I didn’t have a lot of friends to hang out with because most of them did things that the Lord told me not to do. But as I listened to the Holy Spirit, The Lord started sending me more christian friends. People that understood my walk with the Lord. That doesn’t mean you guys will always see eye to eye, but what its means is they will always understand your love for God and your desire to be pleasing to him in all things.

This walk is not always easy. You may have to let some friends go that you have had for many years. Are you willing to compromise your salvation and your walk with the Lord for the approval of friends? NOT ME!!!!

There are days I feel so discouraged. This is also why having christian friends is vital! When I am down I know I have friends that are praying for me. Some days I feel like I’m always trying to explain myself to others and why I move the way I do, but when the Lord shows me His favor, His grace and mercy it reminds me WHY, I do it. It’s because I LOVE GOD! The Lord is showing me, I don’t HAVE to explain myself. My reward is not here on this earth, it is in Heaven.

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I want to leave you with this scripture. In John 14:15  the Lord is saying “If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.”

I hope you enjoyed this post! I’m always praying for you

Andrea F.